3. Men who are living the life they want and became the man they dreamed of being, ...

Men who are living the life they want and became the man they dreamed of being, how did you get there?

Here's one method...

Admitting to yourself that you don't like being who you are. Change cannot happen if you cannot admit change is needed. Take a good long hard look in the mirror. Reflect on how people treat you in life and why. Think hard about who they see when they look at you and is that the person you see in the mirror?

If you want to change who you are, you need to change your behaviour. Learn all you can about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). Identify the kind of person you would like to become if you don't already know. Be realistic. Identify where you are in the social structure and where you can get to. Learn how to cultivate self-discipline if you're struggling to accomplish goals. This process of change will take years. When you start to peel away all the lies you've told yourself over the years, be prepared for severe depression but understand it will pass with time. Don't be bullied by thoughts of suicide, you are not your thoughts. Diet and exercise are instrumental tools you already have for treating depression and creating positive feedback loops to counter the negative. Try forming a great habit like going for a walk when you wake up. It will lift your spirit and boost your mood through the day. Learn a little bit more and more about diet and exercise as you go. This is a slow process so don't rush, it takes a long time to find a diet and exercise routine that fits you.

Start the journey, stay the course.

One day you might look back at your previous self and think how his life sucked and what a fool he had been. Forgive him. Thank him for his hard work and commitment. Treat the memories of your former self with compassion. It was not his fault. Life had unknowingly shaped him up to that point.

Try to discover the things in life that create joy from the inside out. Forget about the external distractions.

Friends, love and fulfilment are side-effects of living to your true self. The "good life" starts to gravitate towards you all by itself. When you see this happening, you will understand the meaning of bliss.

You are the captain of your own life, learn how to sail it.

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