I think if you’re sure of what you’d consent to prior to drinking/smoking, and what situations you’d reasonably end up in with decent humans and are cool with that, there’s no harm in being intoxicated among folks you trust well enough. If you’re ever unsure of consent of course don’t do anything, and you’re absolutely in the right to be uncomfortable engaging with folks who haven’t given sober consent. That said, there were some slightly judgy undertones when you spoke about smoking to get high; why would you care if an adult who is not you chooses to do this? Also your response to the liquid courage comment was spoken like someone who does not understand social anxiety.