My [27/F] bf [27/M] of 11 years said two casual homophobic comments recently despite always being a supporter of gay rights. I don’t know what to do from here

I think he said the PC thing out of anger/frustration.

Yeah I did say that about the PC comment. I said that it’s said as a way to stop people from calling things out.

Maybe. He did say earlier ‘you know I care about this stuff’, and we‘ve had deep talks about how it’s awful that people are homophobic etc. But I find it hard to see why he’s ok with saying that.

I’m also just frustrated at him doubling down and getting angry, and calling me PC, which I hate.

I feel like I shouldn’t have to educate him about this stuff. And I feel frustrated over him getting angry, offending me and telling me how if I had talked to him about it better then he would have reacted better!!! Like me calmly asking why he said that and that it’s offensive isn’t good enough.

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