This is our conversation
[Her] 3/20, 4:16pm
i'm thinking about going to this club to see [REM DJ] w/ [The Guy] tonight
so i'm not sure how late i'll be, unless we decide not to go because of snow
[Me] 3/20, 5:36pm
I think I'll stay here tonight because of the snow as well and come tomorrow morning
[Her] 3/20, 5:36pm
ok sweetie
[Me] 3/20, 5:37pm
I was going to brave it, but if you won't be around until late, then I might as well hang in the safeness
[Her] 3/20, 5:38pm
yeah you might as well wait til tomorrow so the snow gets cleared
[Me] 3/20, 9:57pm
So much snow. Cleared off my car just now
[Me] 3:59am
Did you get home okay?
[Me] 5:43am
:(
[Her] 11:24am
Hey sweetie
I'm ok but I just stayed at Navied's place because it was so late and I was so tired
I am also very hungover
Threw up a few times
Let me know when you wake up though.
[Me] 1:59pm
Hey
[Her] 1:59pm
hey sweetie
[Me] 1:59pm
I'm up. Did you get home?
[Her] 2:00pm
not yet, i am still hanging out at [The Guy]'s
i'll leave either when you leave or when i feel better
feeling better than this morning but still somewhat sick
i think by the time you come over I should be well enough to shop and stuff
[Me] 2:03pm
I mean, I'm free. I was going to come this morning when I messaged you and just sleep at your place.
[Her] 2:05pm
i was asleep when you messaged me
i'm free as well if you still want to come over
[Her] 2:11pm
or not
:(
[Her] 2:50pm
talk to me?
[Me] 2:53pm
I'm here
Just don't know what to say
Do you have a good way of getting home?
[Her] 2:55pm
I mean, I was really drunk and wasn't sure if it would be wise for me to go back on my own
[Me] 2:56pm
Probably wouldn't have been, no
I would have just appreciated a message
[Her] 2:56pm
I fell asleep though and didn't see your message when until i woke up
[Me] 2:56pm
Either I could have come and picked you up, or at least I would have known where you were
[Her] 2:58pm
sorry, I guess I didn't think about that
I guess I could have also called an uber but it would have been like 200+
[Me] 2:59pm
There was no need. I would have just picked you up and we could have both went back to your place
[Her] 3:00pm
I dunno, guy or girl I would let any friend stay at my place when drunk.
I did wonder what you would think though
I just hope you trust me enough
[Me] 3:01pm
The difference is that I don't spend the night at my ex girlfriend's houses
So you never have to explore how you would feel about that
It's not a question of trust, but rather of respect
Do you respect me enough to consider how I feel when you don't reply for a whole night and I have no idea where you ended up.
No, you don't. Hence I feel like shit.
[Her] 3:03pm
I'm really sorry I didn't see your message. Next time I'll just call an uber, but I do respect you enough to at the very least let you know where I am and that I'm ok
I wouldn't be mad if you stayed with a friend (ex or not) as long as you were honest about where you were at
[Me] 3:05pm
I stayed up until like 8:30 and then went "fuck it, I don't have the energy to keep this up" and went to sleep.
[Her] 3:06pm
If you don't want me to stay at his place anymore then I won't. I'll just call you or an uber next time
i don't want to make you uncomfortable
I'm sorry that I worried you so much...
[Me] 3:07pm
I mean, my comfort is just not something you are putting very highly on your priority list
Like, I feel like we've been here before
I don't want to be a broken record and I don't want to hold you back.
As I keep saying, you are an independent person and have every right to do whatever you want. I don't want to control our life. But the choices you make impact our relationship. That's all I'm saying.
[Her] 3:13pm
I will keep that in mind. Whatever I do, I want to make sure you at least know about it.
If there is anything I do that makes you uncomfortable then I will stop
[Her] 3:37pm
I love you, I hope you know that
[Me] 3:41pm
So what's the plan now? Are you feeling better?
[Her] 3:45pm
i dunno, i thought we were going to go shopping or something today but I guess not
[Me] 3:47pm
Me too
So are you staying there for now?
[Her] 3:51pm
yeah i guess i'll just hang out there for a while, probably will get lunch or something and then head home
[Me] 3:52pm
Okay then
I'm still free, but you do you, as they say
[Me] 4:19pm
I'm curious, what does [The Guy] think about all this? He didn't ask whether I would be concerned about it?
[Her] 4:23pm
no, he thought it was ok and thought you didn't mind as long as I stayed just to sleep off the drunk and nothing beyond that
meaning if it's something he would do for any platonic friend then thought you would be fine with it
[Me] 4:25pm
Yes, but you're still there
And I'm here
[Her] 4:25pm
well because we fought...
[Me] 4:25pm
Basically waiting for you
[Her] 4:25pm
i was going to leave as soon as I heard you wake up so we can go shopping
or until i felt well enough to get up and leave
But then we started fighting so I wasn't sure if you didn't want to do anything anymore
So now I'm just sitting here playing hearthstone and watching TV
[Me] 4:27pm
Well I think we should talk face to face, don't you think?
Try and clear the air?
Or you can just stay there o_O
[Her] 4:27pm
i think we should talk face-to-face. I'm not sure about today though
[Me] 4:27pm
I can't figure you out
[Her] 4:28pm
honestly i sort of just want some space right now
[Me] 4:28pm
You got it
[Her] 4:28pm
maybe come over tomorrow or later tonight
eh just come tomorrow or monday
i need a day to sleep on it
but we should talk face-to-face i agree
[Me] 4:30pm
I'm at a loss for words, to be honest
[Her] 4:30pm
why?
[Me] 4:30pm
Because given what just happened, of the two of us, you're the one asking for space
[Her] 4:32pm
well, i guess i'm just tired of being the bad guy all the time.
[Me] 4:32pm
So rather than stopping doings things that hurt me, the solution is to push me away?
[Her] 4:32pm
i'm not pushing you away....
i just want a fucking day to be alone
[Me] 4:32pm
I hate to be so blunt, but you're not alone, right?
[Her] 4:33pm
no i'm with [The Guy] and his roommate