OP, like everyone says; go see your mom and stay as long as you can/want.

Your husband sounds like an ex of mine who - despite not caring to take the time to help me/be with me - wanted to stop me from going to stay with my aunt when she was dying of cancer. He doesn't care about you or your needs. He cares about his own agenda - whatever it is right now. Maybe he doesn't want you to go because you do a lot of household chores or you do the cooking or something like that. I don't know but what I know is that I'd leave. It's all a massive red flag.

You say that in order to get him to listen to your needs.. you need to shout in order for him to take it seriously? What the actual fuck is that. OP, he's an asshole. You need to really think if you wanna stay in your marriage in the long run.