Really sorry for what u goin through... I am a mom to a 10 yo boy since he was 4. My husband legally adopted him as a baby after his ex lost custody. We don't hear frm her much directly so idk bout her overall mental state.. I can say she has completely different values n I wouldnt trust her to care for a gerbil... I don't think what ur bio mom is doing is legal. Ours had old pics online n I reported it to google n facebook. It didnt work btw. I think ur (adoptive) mom needs to go through law enforcement. It is a personal violation n the best advice Id give anyone in that situation is to at least make sure the school is aware of the site/blog.. As long as yall have proof that u told her to cease contact n she persists then it is considered harassment. Idk much bout stalking laws as far as posting personal info such as medical info. Children n family law code for ur state may have info bout what happens after termination of rights. Im not ashamed of my son's mom but I would try to buffer her frm trying to go around me to access him online etc. U need to consider if u want a relationship with her cuz if u do have her charged criminally thatd be an issue. Honestly I stay away frm bm social media. U should talk to ur mom bout what is in ur best interest. No rights means visitation is to the adoptive parents discretion. U could talk to a counselor at least cuz it may help u with ur feelings n they may have helpful resources. N on another note don't fret bout what ppl say especially if they r entertaining what is on a blog. Idk if my son bm has all the answers n lives with the understanding that his best interest is first. I don't control her perception of who she is... Hope u feel better.