Although this is possible, my SO told me the pressure was too much. On numerous occasions he didnt go through with our plans and I would catch him masterbating when he thought I was asleep. He would deny it, but the evidence matched. He was turned on by the thought, but the pressure to perform made it impossible for whatever reason. The initial problem that caused sex to stop may go away, but the tension caused has usually fed the problem.

My SO said he needed us to have no issues, no resentments or passive aggression along with us having a good time with affection and touching that wasnt sexual or loaded with expectations. We needed to be friends before we could be lovers.