I'm sorry this happened to Katie and I thank you for being so supportive. A similar thing happened to me so I would like to give you a bit of advice based on my recovery. My (now husband) was very supportive like you are being and it was him who pulled me through so you're in a great position to do the same also. Firstly the biggest things to help are patience and listening. My anxiety caused me to ask my (now husband) a lot of questions constantly such as "you're not going to leave me are you?" etc and bless his heart he never acted annoyed with me or irritated. My anxiety recovery came from CBT, 100mg Sertraline a day and writing a diary of the things that I was worried about and why those things wouldn't happen. I could then look back in this diary and remind myself that my thoughts were irrational etc. I know that wasn't your question but I wanted to give you that information as I thought it might help. Now onto your original question, personally for me I think it is best when you just ask. Of course you have to bare in mind that people suffering with anxiety will analyse your question. So think about it first and make sure it's very clear such as "so the wedding, are you happy with the date or do you need more time for your recovery?". Something like that would give her little to interpret and you would get your question across clearly without worrying Katie. I personally liked having our wedding to look forward to as it gave me something to preoccupy my mind with; it got me out of the house and talking to people (to pick venues etc). Something you may want to consider as well is that if Katie would be more comfortable with a low key event with less people; something a little more intimate? Then getting married abroad is a great option! We got married in Sri Lanka and had about 10 guests from my family, it was perfect! Contrary to popular belief, it is actually much less stressful to plan a wedding abroad than it is to plan a local wedding. If you want to explore that option then feel free to contact me and I would be more than happy to point you in the right direction for foreign weddings! I'm not the best writer but I hope that helps somehow! Love too you both and best of luck in the future! x