Wow! I just read through all of that.
Damn man you really got yourself involved in quite a situation! I don't even know where to begin....
There are several angles to this... but first, something that concerns me:
She is a very fragile woman who has obviously been abused on all levels by this coward (the guy you rescued her from). You have to understand that right now she feels very vulnerable and possibly mentally weak. Please don't impose yourself on her or try to give her a kiss. She isn't going to tell you "no" for fear of you doing something to her. Think about it. I know you're trying to be nice and all but...
She hasn't left your condo because she is afraid, very scared. Can you imagine being her? A beautiful, small and fragile woman with an absolutely crazy, huge boyfriend that is possibly out looking for her. Who knows what is on his mind? She is scared and might not have anywhere to turn to. She feels safest at your condo. Honestly, given how violent her ex-BF is.. he has probably threatened to kill her.
You need to start thinking of a resolution to all of this -- you can't procrastinate it because I feel it's only going to get worse.. Here is what I would do if I were in your shoes...
There are several ways to go about this...