i literally JUST opened Reddit after having this happen to me about 3 hours ago. I’ve been crying/explaining myself basically since then and it just calmed down, so it’s wild that I open the app and this is the first thing I see. anyway, my husband was very considerate and understanding of why it triggered me (past trauma as well.) he apologized profusely and expressed how sorry he was because he didn’t realize it would upset me and said he would never do it again. he’s never done it before so I believe him, and I’m really grateful he understood and agreed to stop after I only had to say it once. tbh it’s still fucking with me though because I know I shouldn’t even have to say it once, and neither should you. I hate to say that reading this almost has me grateful for my husbands reaction and his reassurance, and you deserve someone who will give that to you instead of telling you to cave in. but honestly maybe we both just need people who have common fucking sense and who’s brains aren’t porn-wired into thinking sexual assault is normal