He is doing lots of things except they all focus on treating the symptoms not the underlying cause of her behavior. He disciplines out one behavior, bullying, and it decreases, although some of it just gets sneakier, and a new one pops up. He's concerned but "he's the father" and he can fix it. He will handle it. Except he works outside the home and I work from home.

He values my opinion in literally every other aspect of our lives. He annoys other people because he is always preaching my amazing ways of doing things.

This being so defensive and twisting my opinion is more hurtful because it's so out of character for him. He's so respectful of me in every other way that this completely blindsided me.

We had a spat before we were married over SD. She would do little passive aggressive things to me like pinch me or trip me and he would never even notice. Things got heated but he came around and started to stick up for me more.

The thing is SD is sneaky. She instigates the other kids into fighting or getting in trouble and then comes out looking clean. DH won't punish if he doesn't have proof. We have cameras in the house but they don't cover every angle.