that is a great point. I guess in general it's just hard to say. I mean of course in the news you hear about crazy people and bad relationships.

I'm glad you were able to get into your late husbands accounts. I know that can be a issue for young people too of course.

I guess maybe the issue maybe is when people give the info way to early in a relationship and even before they are married. You often here stories of people together for years and had the perfect marriage and the SO turning on them.

And, you are right, i do know people dont always have a close relationship to their parents too- this is true.

ughhhh, i just don't know. Maybe it will change when I get married one day. I guess i just read on the news and online too many crazy things that make me cautious.