I'm not an incel but I do lurk here occasionally because I lost my virginity pretty late (22) and had a lot of the same thoughts and feelings as the guys here for those first 22 years of my life. Most of what I see here is very accurate, as I see it the following observations are true:

• Physical attractiveness / good looks are the single most important thing that young (<30) girls look for in a relationship.

• After looks its about how much of a bad boy he is. Drug dealers, violent criminals and other degenerates are at the top of the list, with well adjusted men studying for their STEM degree at the bottom.

• Girls will punish you for treating them with dignity and respect, and will reward you for treating them like a used-up fuck toy who isn't worth your time.

The only times I ever have had success with women it's because I followed these three rules above. I no longer pursue women because it causes me a lot of distress to deliberately hurt someone that I truly care about, to the point that it ruins all enjoyment of the relationship for me.