Funny enough, I didn't even intend to leave the church. I was more or less "pushed off the boat" by lies about me from some vindictive asshole who wanted to marry my wife lol. The exact quote I think was " It doesn't matter what actually happened or didn't, but if this came out public it could reflect negatively on the church" ( I worked for BYU at the time). That's all that mattered - public perception. Not truth, not me losing my livelihood and home, not my family, not the work I'd done, fully underpaid because it was "building the kingdom".
I wasn't anyone special or anything either. No one knew who I was. Bishop came by to take my temple recommend the night they first "informed me" they "knew what my wife and I had done"