Thanks for the considerate response, first of all. Very much appreciated. There was a lot of thought put into that, so it's refreshing to read and get some feedback.

I did ask for an explanation the first time she bailed, just to see if there was any possibility that she was still interested and something had come up on her end. She responded almost immediately apologizing, saying things had been crazy and she still definitely wanted to meet up. I guess that softened things up for me and clouded my judgment.

It's a shame when you say "she was probably only on those dating apps for fun." For a guy such as myself, who lives in a big city and only moved here recently, so really has no framework of friends or family, I don't do these things "just for fun." I don't have any sort of 'back-up plan' per se. I don't have anyone else to really meet up with aside from co-workers and other scattered friends. I'm on these dating apps to meet somebody. It's disheartening to hear that many others, if not the majority of those female users, are simply using it as a distraction and not taking it seriously.

I am! If others aren't taking it seriously, then I'm wasting my time on those things in the first place.

I agree she should've let me know she wasn't interested, but things happen. And many times, people don't want to do that because someone's afraid of an unintended reaction.

This interaction doesn't affect my self-esteem. It simply confuses me, because we hadn't even met and I already wasn't worth her time.

I've rejected girls before, but I at least let them know as easy as I could - by actually (surprise!!!!) telling them and letting them know what I thought - instead of just dropping off the face of the earth.