I understand what you're saying too. I do not want her to feel forced or pressured/I wouldn't force her or pressure her to do ANYTHING that she wasn't comfortable doing (sexual or not)... But I do feel sad when I hear about her past experiences giving head to ex's, and just talking about blowjob (even if it's just joking around, using it as a euphemism) because I we do not share that connection/experience. I know that is no necessary means to compare myself with her ex's, and that reciprocation should not be expected--and I do not--and I DO love giving her oral, for her pleasure and I like it myself. Giving and not receiving isn't as much an issue, as just not receiving compared to her ex's... I feel like what phobos55 says just below, along with some notes from others, would be a good idea: to explain my feelings, learn about her side, and whether or not it can be worked into our routine. It does make me feel sad, and I do care about my feelings, BUT I care about her feelings more, so it just makes me more sad to even think about bringing it up... but it will probably just get worse if I let it go on, unless it doesn't, but I just want to be forward and work on our communication, because that is very important in relationships--along with trust/respect.