I personally think that the most important thing about accepting yourself is listening to your conscious and dealing with guilt in the right way.

We all know what is right and what is wrong deep down, at a subconscious level. We know that working/studying, exercising, helping others, etc are all things that either help us, our families, our friends or society. And by PMO-ing, surfing the Internet, playing video games we are only fulfilling our selfish wishes and that nobody, not even us, benefit from them.

It's like your subconscious, your guilt, is a dark cloud or shadow that follows you wherever you go and accompanies you with whatever you do. You can try and get a sense of acceptance from other people through attention, compliments or commendations, but what does it mean if none if it is actually real? If you don't really deserve it? That dark cloud will still be there.

You can to lie to others that it doesn't exist, you can even lie to yourself and believe in it. But that cloud, it can't be lied to. There is only one thing that will make it go away, and you know what it is.

So if I spend the day studying, exercising, praying, and fiddling with my 3-4 hobbies, then I won't need attention or acceptance from other people to feel good about myself. I will go outside, excited about my hobbies, unburdened by the work I have done, feeling comfortable in my own skin, enjoying every bit of the world, the sunny day, the children laughing and playing, and of course the beautiful girls and women. And you know what? That's when I get the most attention from girls, when I appreciate it but don't need it. But if I spend the day on the Internet and PMO, then I will be desperate for social and sexual attention and that is exactly what will divert it from me. I will be desperate for their affirmation because I have not given any to myself. I will be invisible, sexually and socially.

What good is it? What good is lying to other people, impressing them, being accepted? What good is warping your perception of reality in accordance to your ego? What good is it all, if , at the end of the day, you look in the mirror, and the mask falls off. And you see a person begging and screaming for help, because you are quenching his thirst for affirmation with salt water. But no, you put the mask back on and instead of drinking from the fresh spring of hard work, you dive right into the salty ocean of lies and false affirmation.