I have found people in all races/colors that I think are attractive, but I have yet to manage to really hit it off with anyone non-white.

I got along really well with a Korean guy named Internet Redacted in college, and I'd hoped we had something, but he and his family had a lot of expectations of what "girlfriend material" would be, and I didn't measure up to those.

I gave a black guy named Internet Redacted 2 my number and we talked a little bit, but he wouldn't invite me to anything he had going on, he was just following me around campus uncomfortably. I wasn't sure how to handle it because I'm used to "getting coffee" or "going to the park" to get to know someone, and he didn't do either of those things, so we never made it off the ground either. I wasn't going to go out of my way to try to build a relationship with someone I didn't know at all whose game consisted of following me around and being secretive.

I've flirted around with a few Mexicans at my job and around the local area, but I knew from having seen their other girlfriends (literally these peoples' exes, not Mexican girlfriends in general) that they had certain lifestyle and reproductive expectations that didn't line up with what I had planned in life.

I did avoid dating a really nice guy that I probably would have been a good match with because he was Puerto Rican with a strange accent I had a hard time understanding and I was young and stupid and racist, but I learned from that that I was a stupid asshole and probably passed up a good thing. (He has a nice wife now who is excellent and we still talk a couple times a year.)

So I guess my opinion would be with some people you will have cultural barriers and with others you won't, so you're racist if you aren't open to the idea, but pretending that you have NO barriers (culture/religion/food/family) to dating anyone of any race at any time is a bit naïve and possibly a bit racist in that you'd be dismissing their background and preferences as unimportant.

And as a result I've ended up dating only white people, because they are the overwhelming majority of people I tend to meet, and because it's literally easier for white/white to get started because you don't have to do that uncomfortable "what's your background" dance, and I'm definitely guilty of being lazy because "dating" in itself has never been a priority of mine.

I say you don't have to do the "what's your background" dance with white/white because I am sort of an "expert" in white people, because they're what I know. A white person doesn't need to tell me their background, because once I know the city where they were born, the city they've spent most of their lives, their diction, and their choice of clothing, I have a pretty good general idea of whether this person and I could be a match. I've met a very large spread of white people and media (books/movies) provides me even more data, so white people are a quick study. I don't have nearly enough data on any other people group, so knowing those basics won't get me very far and I'm not sure how to go about assessing % match if they aren't VERY open about their preferences, life goals, and personality. I don't want to force relationships with people and it's my understanding that playing "200 questions" makes me seem like a cultural tourist.

Sorry for the weird naming, I just wanted to be clear that I did actually know peoples' names, I hate the "I gave a black guy my number, look at me" people.

TLDR: Oh my god I don't know but it worries me and I try to act right.