... you definitively seem to be seeking sympathy from yourself. My point is that it's better to admit you're human and have made mistakes than it is to frame everything that's happened as something she's done to you when you also played a role and could have done better in the past and could be working harder now. I'm not saying that you should have been perfect and that you aren't allowed to make mistakes but that you should admit you aren't perfect and that you have made mistakes.

I'm not looking for a laundry list of ways your ex has done you wrong. That's completely missing my point and I'm sure she could come up with one about you, if she was asked to. What could you have done better?

You know, I know a guy who has just the worst baby mama in history. Manipulative, stole his credit cards, tried to poison their kid against him, used him as a pawn, the works. But his kid is an adult now, and they have a great relationship. Because he was there for his son to counteract the damage. And he was there because he fought to make sure he could be.