Yeah it’s understandable to feel that way. Just have to realize at a certain point that all people have a privacy boundary and, with dating women especially, a safety boundary. There are lots of guys with the intent of just “being nice” but might not realize how their actions come across. If I was a woman, talked to some random guy, then he shows up at my house or talking to my sister, I might be legit worried about my safety. And while we know you’re normal, because you asked here first, it also might help your dating life to not be so dependent on one flake on Instagram. Independence and confidence is attractive, so go find some other people to talk to and share experiences with. Preferably more than one, so you don’t get too hurt if they cut you off.