I was older when I was pregnant the 2nd time and was offered some screenings. I didn't do them. The reason why was because it would have been such an agonizing decision and in the end, I probably would've kept the baby anyway so I chose to just skip the agonizing decision part. It took 12 years of trying to get pregnant the second time. I would have been heartbroken. In the end, she doesn't have Downs, thankfully. She is severely autistic with ADHD as well and I'm immensely happy that she's here. I love her so much and there are many great times that outweigh the bad. If I had known she was going to be this difficult before she was born, would I have had her? I don't know. She has definitely made our lives more difficult so I just don't know.
It's such a personal decision. Anyone judging someone for it has no right. The parents lives are important too.