‘The time for men to step up is right now!’: what all men can do to help end violence against women - A panel of men discuss violence against women

Ok then; how has this gone from a protest about a woman being murdered by a policeman to teaching kids about gender equality like we dont.

But ok Ill bite.

Women are extremely safe on the streets according to every statistic we have. They are extremely unlike to befall any harm in on the street and extremely unlikely from a stranger. If we assumed their claims of not feeling safe are genuine then you treat it like you do any irrational belief. Present the evidence of their safety and provide mental health support to acclimatise to that and address the cause of that irrational fear if there is an inciting incident, whatever that may be.

The best thing men can do is reassure them they are safe and there is no reason at all (for the vast vast majority) to believe otherwise.

Also, can I just address this:

I guess I’m the perfect example of that male ignorance. I grew up pretty ignorant about my father’s behaviour. He wasn’t beating us regularly, so I thought: he’s not dangerous. But that wasn’t the case. It was extreme coercive control. Ryan and I have spent a long time trying to answer why my father did what he did. I mean, people always ask us that question. And I think there are two reasons. First: incredible entitlement. He saw himself as the patriarchal peak of the home, and my mother was basically his slave. So there’s that framing women as lesser. But the bit that makes men do the horrible things, I think, is just sheer resentment.

This is emphatically wrong and is ideological in nature not factual. We know, absolutely, 100%, the single greatest predictor of becoming an abuser is a history of being abused. The idea its "entitlement, patriarchy, a desire for female slavery and resentment" is almost certainly utter fantasy that the author has drawn from the modern political narrative. The gods honest truth is that he was probably abused as a kid. You learn proper attachment behaviours from parental (mostly and adult (more broadly) example of healthy attachment. And not having that attachment is significantly more likely to lead to to an adult who has abusive relationships of one kind or another. Obviously not exclusively true but overwhelmingly true. You want to seriously address violent adults, quite frankly its too late often. You needed to catch them while they were being abused by the parents 15-45 years ago.

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