I am your age, and I was your daughter at her age. I am really trying to be impartial when I respond to you, but I am absolutely furious at you for treating your daughter like that.

Yes, you should have her aunt talk to her, because clearly you can't see your daughter as a person in her own right.

Yes, you should set boundaries about drinking, but only because she shouldn't be drinking and driving. Let her drink at home, with you. Let her have a glass of wine on occasion. FFS.

My dad was exactly like you. He made me feel terrible because I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend of one year, which is a perfectly natural thing to want to do. I was grounded for months because I had a box of condoms and was on the pill. I was punished for having emotions of love and lust. I was treated like a misbehaving animal because I cared about my boyfriend. My dad even told me I was acting like a dog in heat. Me, a normal A student, and someone who is now in an exceeding wonderful career with a lovely fiance and my own life.

Sex is not a bad thing. It's NOT a bad thing. It's a NORMAL HUMAN THING TO DO. What you are doing right now is making your daughter hate you and resent you, and you are making her love and respect you a lot less.

I hope you learned your lesson from the last thread. Don't be a fucking idiot like my dad. He called me the other day and insinuated that I couldn't control myself around attractive men. I'm 39 - your age. I am still angry at my father for treating me like I'm some sort of horny animal with no higher intelligence to contain myself... I don't know if I'm going to talk to him for months now.

Don't objectify your own daughter.