This is an experience I had with my ex. My current boyfriend and i haven't had any incompatibilities in the bedroom, thankfully.

I was really depressed and had zero sex drive. We didn't live together, so I had come over for the weekend. I was trying to fall asleep on the second night there, when he started to try it on with me. I was not into it, I just wanted to go to sleep. I told him to put on some porn and masturbate. He wouldn't have that. He begged for more than two hours to just let him do it, saying that I could "just lie there," that I didn't have to do anything.

I told him that he wouldn't like that, but he kept insisting. Eventually I broke, and let him. It was the most demeaning and unpleasant sexual experience of my life. He ended up losing his erection (he had no problems keeping an erection normally) and not finishing, because it turned him off that I wasnt enjoying it, just lying there like he said I could.

It was after that experience I knew I couldn't be with him anymore. I broke up with him less than two months later. It was tough, but it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I was still friends with him for a while, but he crossed a line right after I got into my current relationship, and my current boyfriend and I decided I needed to cease contact with him for good. He still tries to contact me occasionally (only be email now) to no avail. He called my cell phone a few times, but hung up without a word after my boyfriend answered (a decision we made together after the first few calls went unanswered). He never called again.