This email to my fil who had tried to step in and mediate says it all. And yea, my fil is 2 years older than me. Go figure.
I moved out due to threats and hostility.
I have listed the house to get it for sale and he has helped 0 and dragged feet on paperwork. I did everything, cleaned, got pics done, worked with the realtor, etc. I tried to save the house but he would rather make me miserable than be reasonable.
I paid for this month and i can for next months mortgage. Then I'm done. He should stay until the house sells and I'll help out as much as I can. He didnt want me to buy him out so this is the only option. I want to start the custody arrangement asap. I may have to get a second job so I need my schedule set.
It will be easier to sell with me and the dogs out of the way. As I said, he can have everything. There is nothing I want from him other than a basic toolkit and what has been mine. I have no help so I can't even move my tiny bit of furniture, will just sell or throw it out. Or his brother can have whatever he wants.
I'm taking all the debt (13k), the dogs and the liability. I have no assets, no 401k.
He needs to man the fuck up and take responsibility for some of this shit especially if he is going to be so hostile that I can't live there. I'm doing him a favor by not getting a restraining order and just leaving. I'm trying to do what is best for for our kid. I have not provoked him. I have kept quiet and my head down and tried to be business like and he can't stand it.
If someone treated your wife this way would you expect her to stay?
This shit he says he has on me is all pointless and I'm not going to defend nonsense. Dancing with friends we both have known for 5+years 8 years ago for 5 mins? In front of my bosses. Give me a break. I quit drinking in the house for his benefit, But he wants to control me, monitor me, record and watch me further? Go fuck yourself. I'm a terrible person? Fine. Divorce me and Leave me alone.
Venting over. I'm not supposed to talk to you anyway. Like always. I've tried to handle this business like but I won't be shit on for months. No one deserves this. He will have to live with his behavior. I refuse to let this situation make me someone I'm not.
I'm walking away. I will always be your family no matter what. Thanks for trying to help but he needs a reality check big time.