So I'm that guy who says he doesn't like kids, ever wants kids, and I get pissed when my family says its just a phase (I'm 27, big family, lots of siblings who all have a brood of kids).

That said, Of all my nieces and nephews (I have 4 nephews and 4 nieces) I only really care to interact with one nephew, and its ultimately because I see so much of myself in him. I have been able to talk to him as a person since he was 5, and now that he is 10 its still the same. I can spend hours just playing Mario with the kid, and he can tell me things he finds important in his life and its a good time. That said I don't want that 24/7.

I don't want to spend time with the others because I frankly have nothing in common with them and I don't like superficial small talk, especially superficial small talk with someone who isn't on the same mental page.

The hardest part of all of it isn't really children. They're a mild nuisance. It was finding a partner who felt the same. I'm finally in a committed happy relationship with a wonderful woman who just wants to enjoy our double income and go travel.