He wouldnt tell me about making plans alone with his female friends, about when they called him all hours of the night. The previous month I told him to tell me about that stuff because I think it's odd they call him at 2 am and ask him to do stuff. And I told him I especially want to know if he does agree to these plans. He didn't tell me about their calls or that he agreed to their plans days in advanced, the whole month. That didn't upset me too much, I felt a little hurt that after I told him to tell me this stuff he didn't.
So the day of his plans alone with these two girls, we weren't getting along so well. Those past few days he was really neglecting and didn't seem to really care that other things in my life were upsetting me. He wasn't there for me. So I felt unloved. I told him I needed to talk to him, and to let me know if he and his friends do anything else besides a movie and to tell me as soon as he got home so I could talk to him.
The movies over. He texted me about how good it was. It takes him 15 minutes to get home so I waited for a call or text. An hour later nothing. So I called him, all of my calls went through and he didn't answer. So there he was, made extra plans with his girl friends, didn't tell me about it, and wouldn't answer my calls in front of them. The kicker is he told me two days before that that he ALWAYS answers their calls. Even late at night when he is trying to sleep. But he couldn't answer his girlfriend while he was with his friends. & it's not like I call for no reason or to ruin his plans. But he has done that before, kept info from me, went to his friends apartment who are just girls, and didn't answer a single call or think to step outside to answer me to see what's up. Anyway.
He finally calls me back and said his phone was dead. That was a lie because all my calls went through. He then said his phone was dying and that he couldn't feel the calls. Also a lie because his phone is always on intense vibrate in his pocket. He ignored my calls when he was with his friends and didn't tell me they were doing stuff besides the movie like I asked him to.
I know it probably doesn't seem like a big deal but it got me thinking. He never answers my calls in front of family or friends. I always answer his calls and let him know what's up. No matter who I'm with. He has been making me feel unloved. He can't keep his word about things I ask him to tell me. Even in the past I have forgiven him for lying to me or keeping things from me. I felt betrayed, unloved, and all the feelings of never being a priority were brought back up. I want to give him the clean slate, but I don't know if he will keep his word anymore. I don't know if he will keep information from me or purposely ignore me or if I will actually be a priority like he says.