Like in what way? Even if I totally changed my behavior (looks aren't bad but could improve a bit)...it's like nothing ever satisfies her and she can just be really harsh.

SEMI-RELATED SEX RANT - Like what I assume most other happily married couples have, we have very frequent ups and downs, but things get raw sometimes. A few years ago during another shitty time, she literally told me that our sex life was her last priority. When she's into it I have given her up to 3 O's in a sitting (I know, TMI)...but then when she was in a shitty emotional place or overtired she would literally act bored or like she's falling asleep during it...like it was a chore I would have to really push her to do. And that's when I was somehow able to wrangle into a place where we could be intimate - she will be openly disinterested or avoid me. And then it would either be 'can you finish already' or 'that's it?'...but other times when things go well between us, the sex is amazing. I don't get it...just totally below the belt, if you know what I mean.