Well, in my experiences, trans people seem to be ready to get offended at the drop of a hat. Or carry way too much baggage for way too long and let it affect them and their relationships way too much. Some people are ignorant to trans issues, etc., and actually aren't trying to offend. Educate, don't argue. But not many trans people do that.
eh, its not that skewed. i have similar ish views, anyone who isnt trans and goes to..say r/asktransgender and asks something out of genuine curiosity and no intention to offend anyone ( and even explicitly mentioning it in their post ) will get downvoted to hell and told that theyre rude. Spoiler alert: i,also, unfortunately am trans.
I don't get trans men that request male pronouns prior to putting in any effort in assuming their male identiy, likewise for trans women.
what do you define as effort? getting mens/womens clothes? getting on hormones? i personally cant do much else other than than just feed myself estrogen and AA right now. but i also dont really expect anyone to gender me correctly, nor have i asked anyone to swap pronouns. but i also dont plan on presenting feminine in public until like at least 1 year mark, unless my face still remains masculine, which seems possible.
don't get how upset people get over innocent misgendering. Sometimes, it's actually NOT easy to gender someone.
i "get" why you would be upset about misgendering, especially if you do put in effort into your looks like makeup (which many overdo), get feminie clothes etc etc. but i also dont think one should mind it too much as its not like people specifically try to make you feel worse or something.(although such people exist,but theyre very, very rare)
I don't understand someone that's proud to be trans. Be proud of what you've overcome, not proud of your affliction. I've never heard of someone being proud to have cancer, it just makes no sense.
proud to be trans....oh holy fuck. i never understood why people are proud of this. why the fuck would you be proud of this. this is easily the worst thing i've experienced in my entire life , and wouldnt even wish onto someone i hate with my entire being. i'd rather have them dead than trans, its literally sooooo fucking annoying to deal with, and sometimes near impossible if youre poor.(sorry if this bit seems whiney) i guess whomever is proud of being trans is just trying to spin it into a good thing - much like some lesbians are proud to be lesbians, trans people are trying to do the same thing, i dont know how to explain it better than this, but it does seem a bit over the top/stupid. your analogy of someone being proud to have cancer is very good here :P
And I don't understand a trans person that "didn't realise" until they were older, let's say late 20s or older. Being trans doesn't just happen one day.
i agree, it doesnt, however things like shitty parents happen, say you're 10 years old, you overhear your parents being rude towards trans people or just saying remarks that are negative, it can affect you for a while, this happened to me: i was visiting my grand-grandmother(whats the word for that again?) with my mom, there was some tv show going, incidentally it was about some transwoman that got bottom surgery, and asked her parents to call her the name she chose/female pronouns (note this was in russia,and russian has 80% of words gendered depending on which gender says them) i remember clearly my mother saying "i dont understand why would he do this, does he not understand how his parents must feel, and the surgery is painful! ( how would she know that?)" i do not know why, but this haunted me for a long while. at 7 ish i remember watching some girls cartoon, there was a ~19 ish girl there sitting with me, and i got really excited that the cartoon came on (something called w.i.t.c.h i believe) the girl that was sitting with me was like " why do you like this, this is for girls. are you a girl?" while shitty thing of her to say, that kinda kept me quiet for a long time. at 13 years old i remember going to sleep and praying to god/jesus that i turn into a girl in my sleep. that didnt happen, this kept going on for like 2 years i think until i just gave up. at 16 i remember sitting on a bench in a coridor (at school) watching videos of trans women (kim petras for one) i dont remember why i looked up those videos on youtube, nor do i remember what i thought, but i remember feeling something like " i wish that was me" it just didnt fucking click that i was trans i wish it did, but it didnt. now i am here, 18 years old, started anti androgens 2 days before my 18th birthday, and 2 months after started estrogen with even more anti androgens. so i guess it it kinda does happen that you dont realise until you're older. but then again i may be wrong here, i barely have any memories of my childhood, everything is a blur and i cant remember 95% of anything that happened before i was 14. and everything i do remmeber isnt pleasant.
I know not many in my shoes share my opinions, and I realize it doesn't paint me in a good light, but it's how I feel.
i dont know how many people share this opinion tbh, but this definitely doesnt paint you in a bad light. you're just...reasonable. and theres nothing wrong with feeling how you do.
i apologize for making this post so ridicolously long.