Well, I was under the impression that his marriage was pretty good at the time I told him about my attraction. Much of the negative reporting about his wife came after that, and I haven't mentioned my feelings again at all in response to any of that, so I don't really see myself as trying to "seduce" him. When I did finally disclose, I was actually hoping that it might reduce my attraction if I brought it out into the open. It was causing me to not be honest with him in other ways, and I thought the healthy thing to do would be to tell him about it. It was also a great thing in my own personal development because I had to date never in my life told a man that I am attracted to him (before he has told me). If anything, I think my therapist has been the seductive one in the relationship. I haven't mentioned most of the other self-disclosure on his part that took place well before I told him of my feelings. I know as much about his life as I know about many of my friend's lives, so he's been more like a friend to me in some ways than a therapist.

In all honesty, I wouldn't ever proposition him. I'm not that forward. However, if he made some movement towards propositioning me after our current working relationship ends, there is a very good chance I wouldn't turn him down.

I never said his marriage would benefit from a threesome. Whether or not that is the case for their marriage is their decision as a couple, not mine. Personally, I've always found the idea abhorrent but if I get the vibe from him at some point in the future, I would definitely consider it.

I told him about it in the first place in order to break the secret, because it was getting in the way of me being honest in other ways. I thought it might actually break the attraction when I told him, because I've never taken that kind of risk before.