Right? As someone who narrowly escaped similar situation just this week, listen to everyone's advise and get out of this situation ASAP u/evilshadez.

For the past month, I hung out about 3-4 times with a girl from my class to study together, felt we had great chemistry, asked her out this week (specifically mentioning the word "date") and got to know that she is seeing someone. Saved myself tons of emotional investment and walked out of the situation with self-respect. What prompted me to be upfront about asking her out and walk away as soon as she declined?

I had a crush on my colleague a couple of years ago, but knew she was in a relationship for the past 8 years. Naturally, I never made a move until she asked me to hang out with her one day. Soon, we started hanging out every other day, one thing led to another and one day we both confessed our feelings for each other. Leaving a long-term boyfriend was a huge step for her that she could not take. Like you, I felt emotionally connected to her and she felt the same. But with so much emotional investment, I stopped thinking rationally and became needy and possessive over time which in the end drove her away from me.

You are in exactly the same situation as I was back then, and trust me, for every committed girl that you meet and feel emotional connection with, you will find multiple single girls with whom you will feel equally good or even better emotional connection. The only drastic action you need to take right now is to stop all sorts communication with her until you are sure that you don't have any feelings left for her.