Yes. They cannot accept their own flaws and human imperfections and so cast them on others as the source of all their woes in the world. You've done nothing wrong and yet, in the eyes of a narcissistic parent, somehow you always have. There are no personal modifications or adjustments that will ever be enough. They even get unhappy when you manage to fit into their box. The message being, I'm not good enough. I'm not enough. Is it okay to even breathe? I'm sorry she's dismissed your feelings and told you you're not getting "you" right. Which is too a projection, because she acts all of the time and is expecting you to do the same. Misery loves company and that sums up all of the narcissists I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. Your feelings are valid. We hear you. Not alone.