I cannot stand not being on clear terms with people. No relationship can function without open communication. When people start giving vague, short, impersonal replies, I just have to put things to an end.

I tell people, very sincerely, what I think about them. Not mean things, either. Things I liked about them, and how I felt talking to them, or interacting with them. And then I tell them, “I need someone who is more interested in me, and wants to communicate with me more. I am not getting that from you, so I think I will move on.”

It takes a bit of power back for yourself. It makes you feel your own agency, while still respecting them as people, and that you just don’t fit their preferences, and that’s okay.

A lot of people who ghost, will feel a compulsion to say that you have it wrong, and they really do like you, and to go out with them again. Do not. They won’t act differently.