Apropos of another comment of yours - I just realized feminists hate men in the same way that MGTOW hate, really hate, women. Most married women never realize what men, their own husbands, etc really think, or else they'd be vomiting.

The most I "hate" women for is being whimsical and careless e.g. fleecing their ex in divorce court, but I don't find it repulsive or gross, or in fact anything about women repulsive or gross as a rule. But the opposite isn't true.

Like, based on my chats with vamp (she's 34), it's not enough if your husband is infinitely grateful for being given your youth, or does all the things you want him to do, takes care of kids, be romantic, be faithful, etc, behavioral-wise, he has to be madly in love with you in old age, or at least expect to, and at the present be truly in love with you so much he doesn't think about having sex with other women, ever, because that wouldn't be true love, and if he's not truly in love with you he's scum. (I mean this is why I think she's not a troll. It's pretty real, in a fanciful feminine female kind of way, like Phoebe Maltz pinning the all the blame of high status Jewish male exogamy on Woody Allen and Philip Roth exoticizing Episcopalians in their films and novels.)

Was it always this way? I mean you're old enough that you've been acquainted with older women who grew up before second wave feminism when you were young. Was the male gaze something they just accepted, and they only demanded behavioral fidelity, or were they mad about the mental stuff too? There's not a not of documentation on this b/c it was improper for ladies to discuss these things frankly.