by detaching yourself from the outcome of each date/person

I can do this relatively easy as I don’t go into dates with much expectation. It’s more so if I happen to get past that first date phase to a month or so of dating where it’s just gray area and uncertainty. Maybe it’s because I don’t really know what I want and also tend to get close to other people who also don’t know what they want. That’s where I feel that in this dating culture people would have sex and decide if they want to keep going or not, but I’m not someone who can just hookup all the time after just a little while of seeing someone, so it gets to the point of either the person ditching out because no sex, or just a realization from either side there’s not much interest. In any case, it’s in this grey area where you either become emotionally invested, decide to just be hookup buddies, or you drop it. I’m not into hookups so that leaves me with 2 options. That’s where I feel that I have to stop being emotionally invested because likely the other person is still shopping around, but I’m not ready to completely give up. That’s mostly where my struggle comes in.

Anyways thanks for your thoughts