Sure-but then there are situations like first cousins or good friends. I WANT to be there for them. These people want me to be there and in fact would be upset if I wasn’t there.

So for methe challenge is I’m being voluntold to spend a couple grand in one case for the honor and would risk losing the friendship if I don’t go. I went, and I’m glad I saw her get married, but I’m not gonna lie that I felt it selfish AF to have such an expensive burden placed on so many people and then be guilted into going because otherwise I’m the asshole. I love her, but I wasn’t thrilled with the expectation to spend a mortgage payment and precious PTO because this girl had a vision of getting married with her toes in the sand.

Sorry I’m still bitter. I love the idea of destination weddings, but I totally get why it’s frustrating and hard for some people. Especially if the bride and groom aren’t chill about people declining.