I agree with almost everything you are saying. Except the first paragraph.

OP was referring to an older man. Someone who has been around a while, and had quite a few experiences.

Do you know how many assumptions women make about men- and then act on them? A LOT. The whole thing about being afraid of rape, etc. etc. Like every guy is some sort of harasser/abuser. It's the way we get treated. And, it's pretty much codified even here in TwoX.

So when a man with experience rolls his eyes at OP because he assumes she is dressing for someone's attention...oh well.

At least he isn't assuming she's a rapist.

So seriously- you know the best way to get respect? Give respect.

You don't want people to assume you are an attention seeking ho? Don't treat them like a frothing at the mouth rapist.

My point is that his behavior, as an older man, is based on experience. And a large part of that experience is hearing from countless women that they are NOT dressing for others. it's kinda written in stone in the lore of women that they are not dressing for attention.

But go outside, and take a look around. See those girls flirting with those guys? The ones who are dressed in ridiculously small outfits..etc. etc? They'll tell you the same thing...they aren't doing it for anyone else, just themselves.

Girls that show their butt on Instagram will say the same thing.

Really, it's out there everywhere...and you expect this man of experience to believe what he's being told?

Experience. That's the key here.