but it has worked out well for me.

Remember the whole point of things working out for us in islam are after we pass away not this world, otherwise many many vices would be halal. We have to sacrifice many things here so we get rewarded later.

if I drink and party

I was not talking about drinking and partying more about being involved with non mahrams and thinking that it will bring you a good life and then say what you are doing is halal. The abusive parents part I agree with, in some cases you just need to get away, but I can get away from my parents without doing haram.

wearing red and doing mendhi?

No harm in wearing red I just said that even the color red has been influenced by bollywood just like the joint family, so pakistani culture is islamic in name only.

Marriage is meant to be cheap and quick not expensive so haram becomes easy and halal becomes hard. Mehndi has become a must is pakistan and needs to be get rid off, people are doing mehndi in wedding halls by taking out loans and it takes many many years to save thus delaying marriage and increasing the chances of zina. Plus I can't remember the exact things but many practices in mehndi are based on shirk so if you wear yellow this god brings you this luck or that god does that, so the whole thing is pretty much a gathering where people copy people who commit shirk.