I didn't say she was in the wrong. I said there was more to the picture. Marriage isn't black and white.

It's not up to anyone else except those in the marriage to decide if someone is cheating. Who cares if "most people" consider it an affair or cheating or whatever. It's not up to you to decide.

Salvageable isn't good enough. To salvage something is to make due and adjust that it cannot be fixed. She can make her marriage better. She can Kintsugi her marriage by realizing that infidelity happens because of a weakness in the relationship. Usually, it's communication, either verbal, in love, or sex.

Please don't take this personally. I didn't mean you said it should end. I should have been more clear. Most replies on r/marriage and /relationships immediately go to the "cheating so leave" rhetoric. Most people these days are afraid to put work into a relationship, so they take the easy way out.

Downvote me, I don't care. Fuck Karma.