Yeah, join the club.
I was a really top contributor on BPD loved ones; someone on there was basically seeking advice and got all the advice. That person, in my eyes, broke the rules, went to a party or something, unblocked their destructive and malicious ex partner, and then that person basically vented about "I just needed the abuse to get my head straight".
I got so insulted by that, because it put that person at level 1 again, it completely nullified the "seeking help and advice" bullshit they posted all over the place, it completely destroyed all efforts the others and me made to help, and give advice.
If you know the hot plate burns you, and you touch it, and then come here crying "I needed that burn to get my head straight", you can expect to be attacked a bit.
All I did was telling that person, without insults or anything, that that was self-induced pain, self-made terror, and that what they did was completely nonsensical and off the hook stupid to do. They WERE healing, you get my idea? They WERE healing, and RE-ENGAGE for one night to "take abuse again" to verify "that other person doesnt change". It's something us BPD-traumatized "helpers" said like that, many times, "they dont change like that".
And the mod wrote to me:
"Dude you are out of control, unbelievable".
The ban I received is not right, and I didn't protest it out of pride. It's unjustified, illogical, for the amount of help I did, but that person was picking a fight with me, after crying and venting about "boo hoo I touched the hot plate altough you all told me i will get burned, and I knew so myself". All I did is was basically saying "See, told you, and you gave a damn about our advice, it's your own fault".
Sometimes a person telling you "well ffs, your own fault!" helps, esp. if your attitude is "I wanted to see if I get burned again". That person was acting wise-guy-ish and very snotty in their replies and they are the ones who reported me for sure. They cry, bicker, vent, about something that were told to "AVOID!!!" and I was really, really helping that person. They gave me upvotes and thank yous like nothing, and all of a sudden, after being exposed to some harsh truth, they cried and reported me.
It looke to me, as if that person also has Borderlines or at least "fleas", because this erratic behaviour is on par with BPD itself.
So there you go, now you know that I can totally relate.
I am always doing nothing but speaking truth, and people can't take it, and call me a sack of sh*t too, I gotten used to it, the ex does it too. That other people are the cause of me exposing them with their erratic and abusive and delusional behaviour, they ignore. It's always me, me, me to blame, always been like that.
And I'm never talker or writer. But if I do, I help, or expose. I help a victim, or expose someone who is just looking for company and compassion but has their own load to carry and their own blame to face.
And people don't like that, people never like the truth, if someone sees them thru.
As we say "Doorzichtig", "translucent". The people are like glass. You can see them thru withing seconds. First looking for compassion, then appreciating and taking in advice, saying "Thanks bro", and STILL repeating the same mistake over again. And then you are supposed to belittle them.