I didn't tell you that if you reference PTSD it's bad but if people reference BPD or NPD that is fine. I said if diagnosing isn't allowed than no one should be throwing out diagnoses, period. You are the one thinking it is ok for you to use a diagnosis while telling people not to use them. If diagnosing isn't allowed. Diagnosing isn't allowed, period.

You think it causes harm to suggest OP's ex might have a disorder but you don't think it's harmful to suggest people commenting on said disorder might have a disorder.

There may be some people that are having a trauma response but you cannot speak for all people, hence why diagnoses probably shouldn't be thrown around.

But here's the thing, someone saying my npd ex sounds just like your ex OP is not the same as you telling them they are just projecting trauma. That is a huge leap. How about their ex just sounds like OP's ex and they are seeing the red flags.

So, yeah, it is irresponsible that you are doing that and I don't think we should continue to engage. We've each said our piece and you don't seem to comprehend mine so it's difficult to have dialogue. I'm not mad but I think we've simply come as far as we can in this conversation.