I have a lean towards pale, redheads that are busty-petite. The other(more important) half of "my type" is someone that is strong and independent in their life, but submissive in the bedroom. I realize how cliche that is, but that doesn't mean I don't branch out.

oh god please stop digging.

I can't force myself to be attracted to certain body types any more than a gay man can force himself to be attracted to a woman. Telling me that "I'd be surprised at what I'd find attractive if I try hard enough" is the same as telling a gay woman to "try harder and maybe she will enjoy dick". That isn't how any of this works.

I wasn't going saying go fuck a man or do something your uncomfortable with, just maybe some more reflection.

This Convo started because I made a small joke about you gatekeeping an Asian fetish mind you, which implies that you're at least OK with someone having an Asian fetish (since you made a point of saying "self-respecting).

Dude that was sarcastic.

All that said. You're right, the issues with sexuality should be talked about when they are unhealthy. I just don't think having certain physical preferences is unhealthy.

I dunno you were showing that it can be unhealthy and damaging yourself.