How and when did you realize you were getting played in a romantic relationship?

It wasn't cheating, but I was getting played in the "pathological lying for sympathy" sense so here we go;

We were long distance and struggling and his visit to meet my family bombed in an epic way. When he left were were angry at each other.

When he went back home, a week or two went by and he complained of epic stomach pains, but he refused to go to the hospital. I webMDed it in an attempt to scare him in to going - it seemed like it could have been a pancreas or an appendix issue.

After hours of cajoling he goes and comes back and says its pancreatitis. There's a really strict set of rules you have to follow when that happens and it includes not eating much, bed rest, and no heavy labor.

He kept trying to go to work, in a restaurant, and I kept getting upset at him for t. We fought and fought. He said he was fine, he had to do it for the money, he had no choice. I said he was playing with his life, he said it seemed like I didn't really care.

One day I casually mentioned how bad the summer had been to us and we got in an epic fight. He drove off and refused texting/calling to me (all this is long distance). Half an hour later I get facebooked by his best friend "how dare you!" "Look what you've done" "if he hurts himself you're to blame."

I was crying and bawling and upset and then I realized two things: one, the friend was supposedly working himself during the time he was messaging me and two, his syntax and word choice were all off for him, but spot on for my boyfriend.

I call the friend, and he picks up, not mad at me and very confused. I ask him if my BF has contacted him. No, they haven't spoken in days since they got in an argument at Red Robin.

"Red Robin...he had pancreatitis. He's not supposed to be eating anything, let alone greasy diner food."

"Pancreatitis? He looked totally fine to me! Didn't say anything about being sick. And we split a tower of onion rings."

I call the boyfriend, and I demand he send me pictures of the hospital bills he claims he can't pay. He hangs up, and an hour later calls back and admits he made the whole thing up. We broke up that day.

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