I'm sorry you're in this predicament. I'm really not one to usually question other people's parenting decisions. We all have our own journeys we need to walk and I truly believe that most of us do the best we know how.

I know you're trying to maintain good relations with your parents. I know you're trying to get some well-deserved adult time without your kids. But you need to ask yourself - "at what cost?" Are you really willing to risk your children's safety? Are you sure that not hurting your mom's feelings is really more important than your children coming into close contact with a convicted child molester? How much are you really going to be able to relax while your children are away if you are concerned that your parents will not respect your wishes and that your children are unsafe?

YOU are the parent in this situation. YOU call the shots. I'm sorry to say that there is no delicate way to phrase your request to your parents. YOU are the one who is responsible for your children and your parents need to assure you that they won't go against your wishes.

You are an adult and are NOT subject to what your parents desire/think is right, etc. You tell them what you expect and if they can't respect that then they don't get to watch YOUR kids.

This may require some serious sacrifice from you, but you are strong. You can figure this out and you DO have the guts to pull it off. When faced with difficult situations where I don't want to do the hard work of doing the right thing, I often ask myself if I would be able to live with myself if the worst happened and I didn't do what I knew I should have to prevent it. So ask yourself - if you are not firm and direct with your parents - if you don't let them know that you are serious and you won't send your kids to be with them if they won't comply - and the worst happens - will you be able to live with yourself?

Do the right thing. Be firm. Be direct. Be unequivocal. You can do it.