I'm not advocating for young women to get married like me -- I'm saying not to give wifey benefits if you're just dating. My husband and I were together for a little less than two years when he proposed. I guess I'm a special case because I moved out of my parents' house when I was 18, lived abroad three times, travelled 1-2 times a year since I was 19 (many times I did it alone!), worked internships in my field, secured a job in my field before I graduated, dated a lot throughout university, and I have just met soooo many people from all walks of life. I've gone through a lot of shit in my life that I think forced me to grow up more quickly and really take the time to examine myself. I try my best to live a well-rounded life with hobbies, volunteering, and socializing while I was dating my boyfriend and even now that I'm married, although COVID has put a damper on some things. I don't like feeling the need to justify my marriage, especially when my husband and I are quite honestly more happy than a lot of older couples we know, but I know what I want out of life. I know that's why people discourage young people from getting married, is because they often don't know what they want in life.