I'm also bi and I feel the same. I think the nitpicking thing is ironic because I've noticed that women are better at men at most meaningful things related to being in a relationship yet...less confident than men about them? Major dunning kruger effect vibes. And I think it feels like "nothing is ever good enough" because they literally don't give a shit about 90% of what you do, while obsessing over the 10% of things directly related to their ego, status in society and cock...even though they benefit from that 90%. It's sick how they pretend that not caring about it is some sort of boon. In my experience it's actually horrible.

If, say, a girl or a guy only liked me for looking cute as heck, I'd consider that relationship dead. It's really not a surprise that there's actually a statistic on how men that say looks are important are way more likely to get divorced.