This is nothing new that's is being said here and it's fine to hold them. But it' everything about it is clear as day,not wrong , not bad, Misguided. You cannot control attraction, it's there or it isn't. Love is a verb, it's an action. Someone can say they love you. As they act in ways that hurt your hurt you and and make you feel bad. People really hinder themselves with that use of spark and it should've been grown out of use. There's shade to attraction, anyone who' been on love with their best friend would know that that in fact is the pinnacle. But this are the differences of how we view them that make the difference.

This I can speak of Having Been through the fires of love and loss.