Similar age group but other way round for me. I'm curious (for my own situation as well as yours) and have questions (if you dont want to answer I respect that). You mention ED. Why do you think that is? Low libido generally, or just for your wife? Medical issue? What about viagra? Religious beliefs,? Is it because you consider sex is boring or even gross / unhygienic or your SO doesnt arose you in the way she used to all those years ago, or in the way you would like her to arose you ie you have fantasies that are not being fulfilled? Have you both looked after yourselves over the years? They say staying in shape is good for sex (personally only works if both spouses partake, but that's another story). I'm HL, but it's not exciting to, after making every effort to be nice and a lot of pleading, to have a half hearted clothed cuddle and it stops at that. Welcome thoughts from anyone.