I've been here. I found out my boyfriend of three years was cheating on me from a month in for the entirety of our relationship. Still, I was with him for three years (and faithful, and in love when I found out) and wanted to make it work. If you do, too, see how he responds to you finding out. Does he feel bad? Does he know why he cheated? Is he open to counseling? It's easy for someone who hasn't been there to say walk away, but you invested three years of your time and if he is willing to a) own up to what he did; b) acknowledge how he hurt you; and c) work on making a solid foundation on a future with you, if you think you can handle it, maybe you can work it out. But only if you can handle it if he cheats again, because it's not a guarantee he won't.

You know you're worth more than a guy that will knowingly hurt you by cheating on you again, I hope. Because you are. I don't know you, but you are. Everyone deserves a person who not only respects them, but also doesn't want to see them hurt. That's love, really, not wanting to hurt someone else. But like I said, three years is a long time and doesn't make it black and white.

If you want to end it, that's great. It's putting your self worth as a priority and you can heal on the betrayal and find someone who thinks you hang the moon. It's not giving up on a relationship or "taking the easy way out." You aren't a bad person for wanting to end it.

And if you want to work on it, you're not weak or a doormat. But please, take a step away from the relationship and see how he is reacting to it and if he seems like he wants to work on the relationship, too, and stop doing things he knows hurts you. For whatever reasons, he may care for you but maybe not enough to stop hurting you, or in the way you want to be cared for.

Best of luck, and it's a terrible situation to be in, but there is no right or wrong, but what's best for you. xx