These comments are wild, people think way too black & white. You can care for someone and not want to be with them. They both clearly care for one another. I just think OP should tell him what is bothering her about it. We don't know these 2 people who have this connection. And I am a full believer nobody should, not even a husband or wife tell you who you can or cannot keep in your life. Tanya is the only one from my understanding of this post who shares her feelings. If her husband has not, then it all comes down to trust. I just took it that she does not trust her husband, because Tanya's feelings are out there in the open. She will ruin her relationship with her husband by not discussing this out. But I don't think it would be fair for her husband to choose between them. It would break my heart, if my current spouse made me have to drop someone I had a connection with and care for in a platonic way. If he is a good guy, it says a lot about him and how he treats his past ex's or women.